collectively sorry

I heard this opening essay on one of my favourite shows last week. I stopped in my tracks, standing stock still in the middle of the kitchen, coffee cup in hand. Breathing and listening. And, it's stayed with me. And I've discussed it with my own teens, trying to not sound absolutely completely freaked out. Breathing and listening again.

I don't know if this story has made it past the Canadian border, but in a way I hope it has. You can google her name and find the original video if you wish: I warn you, you may become nauseated. I did. Apparently her Mum has said that the video should remain available... that this is what her daughter would've wanted. 

I thought the second half of his essay hit it... bang on:

... the suggestion will reek of arrogance and denial
and it is that denial that may be our greatest battle in this moment

as if a previous generation’s difficulties
should form the prescription
for inaction and dismissal now,
as if we don’t have the evidence 
that this is a new kind of epidemic

  ~  quite the opposite  ~

shame on those amongst us 
who would misunderstand the way
in which the world has changed

yes we have suffered bullying in the past,
(many of us know that all too intimately)
but we did not live in a world of social media...

of Facebook taunts that can invite 
a pile-on of participants from around the world
that will live in infamy,
in online pages that are near impossible to extinguish,
that can follow a young teen to any computer screen,
no matter how far her family moves to stem the tide,
no matter how hard they try to hide

  ~  on the contrary  ~

we should not rest 
until all of us together -- as a national community --
take on the bullies who will try to tear us down

we should not rest 
until any and every teen understands that
it is okay to be 
different -- or the same --

immune from societal blame

we should not rest


  1. I find it so disturbing that so many people knew what was going on and were trying to help and yet the bullying and cyberstalking (by teens and adults) continued.

    I thought this blog - http://sodisarmingdarling.tumblr.com/post/34106027759/what-its-like-being-a-teen-girl was particularly good.

    1. One comment I read asked a very good question: if Facebook claims to own everything on the website, shouldn't they be held somehow responsible (even a little bit)?

      And yes: that blogpost IS very good. And yes: it made me ANGRY.